We have a problem when the weather is more engaging than Bruno Mars.

A Serious Problem. 

I have a list of performers I want to see. Too many have passed or no longer perform that I haven't had a chance to see and I have sadness. Frank Sinatra, Michael Jackson, Prince, Siegfried, and Roy to name a few. 

Bruno Mars was on my list and I had the opportunity to see him in the Park Theater in Las Vegas. EEEEEE!

Let me get this out. So much fun!  He is dripping with charisma - and finesse- that smile, those dimples, his band, and he looks like he is just having fun. It's a good time.

In front of us at the theater is a family of five. Mom, Dad, three kids, guessing under the age of 13. Before the show the kids were passing the time on their smartphones. We were passing the time by watching what the kids were doing on their phone.

One boy of the family had an Instagram account (he looked nine y.o). As we waited, we watched him unfollow and watch basketballs clips.

The show started.

Here's something I don't get. Why people video an entire show… a clip, I get. But the whole show? They are never ever going to watch that video. If you really want to relive the excitement of the show, there's much better footage out there than you're getting on that Smartphone as you attempt to hold a beer... 

Bruno Mars allows this silliness of the phones during the first song. Before the 2nd song he welcomes the audience and tells them to put their damn phones down because they can't dance and party holding them. 

No words by Bruno Mars, his fancy foot work, or lots of indoor fireworks could keep that kid off his phone, and he wasn't making a video of the experience like most.

He was checking the weather. The weather?!?! 

He checked the weather hour by hour in Las Vegas, London, Minnesota, and San Francisco.

He did at one point take a video snippet of the show which he posted on Instagram and proceeded to watched over and over while the show moved on through the hits.

We couldn't stop glancing at the kid, putting bets on that 24K Magic is the song that will get him to stop checking the weather or watching his video snippet. 

Nope 24K Magic didn't do it.  

I couldn't relax or in Bruno lyrics throw some perm on my thoughts. I was thinking about: 

  1. Validation of life choice of not having children was a good one.
  2. Why do parents bring children to Vegas?
  3. Is Bruno Mars appropriate for young children?
  4. A babysitter would have been much cheaper.
  5. What's going on in that boy's mind? 
  6. What are little screens doing to our brains? 
  7. What impact does this have on the future? Relationships, work, and the world? I think we have a real problem.

Now you can probably say something about us – watching this kid check the weather at a Bruno Mars show – rather than award-winning artist on the stage.  

I was thinking. Not tapping, flicking, or scrolling during the show but I know I have through experiences and time with some of my favorite people in my life.

It needs to get under control. 

Phones are Messing With Our Ability To Be Human

I worry about what these little pocket gambling devices – we can't leave the house without – are doing to our ability to be human. 

They have changed behavior. 

Here's what I have seen and been guilty of: 

  • The first thing when waking up and the last thing before going to bed, checking my phone.
  • When watching TV at home, "multi-tasking" on my phone or computer.
  • While waiting for a meeting to start, a plane to board, a meal at a restaurant, as a passenger in a car, train, plane, and before a show – I pass the time with my phone not talking to people.
  • Keep children quiet and still by giving them a device (any why without headphones?!?).
  • When bored or not wanting to do something hard pick up the phone and mindlessly scroll.
  • Focused on capturing an experience versus living it .

I worry about these behaviors and the impact on relationships and living life.

We are losing our ability to connect with others. The ability and skills to have a real-time, unplanned, uncontrolled conversation and interaction with another person(s). 

What impact are these behaviors going to have on the future of business and the workplace?

Who doesn't love a click, click find it on the Internet and it'll arrive in 2 days or less!  I didn't have to talk to a person at all! It's a dream. 

Until… something goes wrong. 

Then we expect a competent, caring person who will listen to us and solve our problem. We don't want a machine.  We want an actual human. 

Where are we learning and practicing basic human skills? 

If we can't hold a 15-minute conversation with our friends and family sitting at a table at a restaurant as we wait for our food arrives or just live in the present in controlled weather conditions inside a theater for 90 minutes during an energetic performance, I'm worried and scared.  

Like Bruno Mars said put your damn phone down. Me included.

It's not going to be easy It's an addiction but we start by taking small steps. 

Join me in resisting the urge to pick up that phone and make an effort to limit screen time for people time. 

The weather, your social media, videos of baby goats (although adorable) can't be more important than spending time with family, friends, other humans or using your brain.

Let's connect more. Be human. Be Awesome

If you're in, let me know what you are going to do to bring back more human time in your life. 

As a young girl I begged my parents to take me to see New Kids On The Block. It didn't happen until 2009 when I dragged my husband. He also went to Bruno Mars. Such a good man. Sir Tom Jones is next for like the 10th time... Good, good man.

Who's on your list to see? 

PS. I wrote an article this summer about winning the lottery and seeing Bruno Mars was on my list! #winning. Check out that article here. 

PPS. I'm regretting not picking up the gold big old hoop earrings at the show that said "Chunky". I think I could rock them. 

Why Your Friends Are Join Direct Sales or Multi-Level Marketing Teams

Have you noticed that many of your friends now run a small business selling skin care, oils, leggings, kitchen gadgets, jewelry, wine and more?

They are pimping out products in Direct Sales or Multi-Level Marketing (MLM) companies. 

You thought they were smart. They are educated and have a successful career.

You scratch your head and think why would they even do that?  Why not go into selling used cars or timeshares? 

 Numbers Around MLMs

  • One in six U.S. households has someone involved in direct selling
  • Nearly three in 10 people involved in direct selling are Millennials
  • More than 77% of people involved in direct selling are women
  • 52% of direct sellers are college graduates compared to 28% of all Americans

You're probably thinking you don't need me sharing numbers on it to know it's a thing. Your Facebook feed tells you. But why has it become such a thing for smart, educated women? 

Workplaces Suck

We spent most of our waking hours at work. Surrounded by people, we don't love let alone really even like, and I'm not even talking about the bossholes we work for. That's for another day...

The environments that we work in suck. No amount of free Coke (the soda), table tennis, and trendy open collaboration space (that no one likes, except you bosses that have an office and think they are a good idea!) can cover up a miserable place to be. 

We get through the day clock watching as if it was an Olympic sport until we can get the hell out of there. We step into our car sanctuary where we can control the temperature (unlike in the conference room) or hop onto the metro, earbuds in silencing out the world, listening to the Hamilton soundtrack in peace thinking about if only duels still took place... Heading to our comfy home to ditch the scratchy power suit surrounded by people and pets that get and love us. 

Tomorrow we do it all again, living our own version of Groundhog Day.

The Dream Of MLMs

What if there was another way? 

Multi-level Marketing companies tap into a need people have, especially women and give them something they aren't getting in today's or yesterday's (MLMs have been around a long time) workplaces.

MLMs provide a sense of purpose, community, support, development, achievement, with the freedom and flexibility to work wherever and however you want. You're your own boss and can diffuse essential oils all day in your space, and no one cares. 

Here's what some in Direct Sales have to say about it:

Be part of something bigger than myself, give to causes that matter to me, and make a difference in the lives of others.
I want to have the freedom to do what I need and want in life without the restriction of mandatory hours and set pay for what I do. I need the flexibility to spend time with my loved ones.

The ability to have control of your work and time makes MLMs very attractive to some.  Even if they aren't making bags of money, they just may be getting rich in other ways. 

If you're a boss or co-worker and have people on your team who are part of a direct sales company, realize, they haven't lost it.  There's probably something missing, or they need in their current work.  Ask them why they do it? What do they like about it? Take that info and think about what changes you can make to your workplace to provide the support, create the environment, and experience people are looking for.

Seriously, Why Do People Join and Are They All That?  My Year In An MLM

As a multi-passionate, lifelong learner of all things with a curiosity around people, behaviors, and motivations I have been fascinated for years about direct sales business models, systems, and processes. 

I did the unthinkable for a nice, smart, highly educated, successful woman of the world. I joined an MLM.  I reached the company and its leadership before diving in, and I used the products. 

I spent a year in the MLM learning all about the industry, getting some amazing personal development, and making some lifelong friends along the way. 

There are things I really liked about it and others not so much.  If curious or considering joining a direct marketing biz/MLM I put together my Top 5 Things To Love About Direct Sales. You can get it below. 

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A Job Posting Is Not A Checklist

A Job Posting Is Not a Checklist

I'm talking to you. 

Here's what else I know. Good chance you are female. 

It's a very female trait to use a job posting as a checklist. Reading every word in each bullet point multiple times, possibly writing your specific experience in the margin of the bullet as you tally up how many of the requirements you meet.

 If = 100%*, then you will apply.  

Males, on the other hand, tend to skim the posting and think "yeah, yeah, I got this and can do it" and will apply if they meet 60% of the criteria*. 

Job postings are often ridiculous. They are written in such a way they are looking for a unicorn. 

The unicorn does not exist, but let us assume it does. 

If the unicorn did meet all the criteria, has experience and skills that met each of the job requirements AND desired requirements (oh yes, they have the desired Ph.D. in Rocket Science).

There's a pretty good chance the unicorn will be disengaged or looking for a new job in just a few months because they are bored out of their mind because they are unable to use their magical unicorn powers. 

No employer, you didn't need a unicorn.

What you need is to stop cutting and pasting from other job descriptions because it sounded good and give some thought about what you really need in the position. While at it, you also need to include the salary range in the posting. 

Until that happens, think of job requirements as more of a wish list. People are hired all the time who didn't have all the job requirements.

Don't let having every single requirement of the posting 100% stop you from applying. 

Use common sense. I don't want you to waste your time or others.  If the job is for an airline pilot and you only have a driver's license that is probably a bit of a stretch… 

The point is, stop using the job posting as a checklist and more of a guideline.

If the job interests you, you have applicable experience to do the job, and you meet around 70-80% of the requirements, apply!

If the job says it requires 3-4 years of experience in a particular area and you have 2 years and rocking it, apply

Apply with a tailored resume and cover letter showcasing your experience, skills, and abilities related to the job and hit apply

If the idea of applying for a job where you don't meet 100% off the job posting requires is giving you angst, good. Apply!

Being conscientious like you are will shine through in your cover letter and during the interview. Remember good employees are hard to find and they need your awesome.

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Fact: You Can't Win If You Don't Play


The California Lottery is up to $700 million.

I don’t regularly play the lottery. Thanks stats classes for ruining gambling for me.

I know the odds are not in my favor but I also know my numbers have the same probability of being selected as all the others and a there is a 100% guarantee you won’t win if you don’t play.

I am not fool when it comes to $700 million. Well, in this case, $350 million as I had a friend buy my ticket, saving me a trip to the place where you buy lottery tickets, so I will share my winnings.

This started a text discussion of…

What Will We Do When We Win The Lottery? 

After we take the lump sum payout, I would…

Wait! I realized my answers have changed over the years and I am very excited about it.

A few years ago, I would have said I would stop working for someone else, travel the world, buy a house, a car, rescue dogs, and help others.

Today, as I think about my millions coming my way and wonder what I am going to do, I realized I am doing it!

I have traveled the world, have a house, a car, a rescue dog, and doing my own thing on my terms that helps others.

My point is not to show off how amazing my life is but to share you can create that life and work you dream of and you don’t have to win the lottery to do it.

Seriously, if a scared, play-by-the-rules and do-all-the-right-things gal can create the life that she once dreamed of IF she won the lottery, you can too.

How did I get here?

Live your life. Own it. Don't leave it to chance. 

I would like to say it was just luck and just happened but that would be fake news. This has always been a work in progress. It didn’t happen overnight but there is a simple equation to it that I learned from New York Times best-selling author Dan Miller in his book titled 48 Days To The Work You Love.

A Dream + A Detailed Action Plan = A New Future

I had a dream of what I wanted my life and work to look like. I know you have them, too.

But a dream is not enough. Having just a dream is like buying a lottery ticket (or having your friend do it) and leaving that dream’s ability to come true up to luck, random probability, and hopefully, a good friendship in that he doesn’t skip town with your winning ticket.

The secret sauce to winning the lottery of your dream life and work is having a detailed action plan and actually taking action.

I know so many who have amazing dreams and a plan that is contingent on the timing to be right to do that one big thing (like winning the lottery, getting that promotion, or when the kids turn a certain age), only then they will take some action. Which usually means no action.

Here’s the thing. It is not about one big thing. From my experience, it is a series of small baby steps that you do each and every day. I started by reading blogs and books and writing down what I want and how it will feel and went on from there.

That is how I created my own winning. 

Oh, and when I win my half of the $700 million or as I continue creating my own, here’s what I am going to do:

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Me & Landon "LL Cool Grey" .

Learn more about greyhound rescue here. 

  1. Market my workshop to help more people find or create work they love.
  2. Rescue more dogs and possibly baby goats.
  3. Update the bathrooms in my 1970s house (one has carpet in the bathroom!).
  4. See Bruno Mars in concert.
  5. Give more to support organizations that are helping and fighting for others. Kindness and caring is awesome.

So what's on your list?

Remember: you can’t win if you don’t play.  Are you ready to play to make it happen?

If you are ready and want help creating an action plan for your dreams, I’m here to help. Click here to learn more. 

You ARE A Leader If.... 10 Things Leaders Do.

You ARE A Leader If... 10 Things Leaders Do

A friend of mine reminds me of a unicorn. Seriously, she is like magic. So smart, caring, fun, and wicked talented. She called me recently to talk her down from the irritating day she was having at work. Even unicorns like her aren’t immune to those days. We all have them.

I listened.

Agreeing with everything she shared. Meetings can be a big waste of time, collaborations can be painful, people are glued to their cell phones and not even listening, politics at work (and in the U.S.) are annoying, and the use of buzz words like “optics” is just so silly and makes you look stupid. Unless you’re an optician.

She shared a story of providing coaching and suggestions to a member of one of the collaboration teams she is on because she just had to. Then mentioned she is not their leader and probably stepped out of line.


The needle on the record scratched and I stopped her right there, reminding her that in having the need to help someone, taking action on that need by providing coaching and suggestions, makes her a leader. She is a leader.

Leadership is a choice, not a position
— Stephen Covey

Every single one of us is a leader.

A title, position, office, or company car does not make you a leader. We all know people in positions of “leadership” that — given the choice — we would NEVER have chosen to work for.

They may have the title of “leader” but they model qualities that instinctively tell us they are not a leader we would follow by choice, listen to, or go near if we didn’t have to. There is a big difference. We tolerate them and their poor behavior because of boxes on an org chart and, sadly, the deep-down real reason. A four-letter word: FEAR.

Behaviors and actions are what makes a leader.

Here are 10 things that make you a leader.

You are a leader when you:

  1. Think differently.

  2. Share ideas.

  3. Speak up.

  4. Influence others.

  5. Listen.

  6. Support.

  7. Share.

  8. Ask questions.

  9. Encourage.

  10. Care.

Have you done any of those things? I know you have and that makes you a leader. I want you to remember this! So read it again and say it with me: I AM A LEADER. Own it.

I also want you to commit to being the kind of leader that people want to be around. Not because they are forced to because the org chart says they have to or from a place of FEAR.

You know the kind of leader I am talking about. They make you feel valued, respected, smart, that you have good ideas to contribute, and that you matter — not only for the business but in this world as a human. These leaders are awesome and all too infrequently encountered, just like a unicorn. The world needs more unicorns. Be a unicorn!

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Deliver WOW At Your Next Meeting

Delivering WOW At Your Next Meeting

I Hate Meetings

Growing up, we were told the word “hate” was a very strong word, like a cuss word. We weren’t allowed to use it. Instead of saying “I hate fish,” we were corrected to say “I don’t care for fish” or “I dislike fish.” 

But I’m grown up now, and when it comes to meetings, saying “I don’t care for meetings” or “I dislike meetings” doesn’t cut it.

Meetings have a tendency to dominate our time at work. Studies of managers and professionals reveal they spend between 25% to 80% of their time in meetings.*

I hate meetings because I have found the majority of those I attended have been a waste of my time. Snacks are the only things that save some meetings from being a total waste, but with budget cuts, the snacks — if even offered — aren’t cutting it either.

From my experience, meetings usually:

  • Don’t start on time.
  • End late.
  • Have too many people in attendance.
  • Lack an agenda or have too many personal/hidden agendas.
  • Are too long.
  • Conclude with no or few decisions, resulting in the need for — you guessed it — another meeting!

Feel free to add your own gripes to this list. I know you have some. 

And that is at the meeting. There is something before the meeting even starts that gets me riled up — the meeting invitation.

Here are two common mistakes most people make when calling a meeting.

Mistake #1: No Subject Lines or Vague Ones That Make No Sense

Do these subject lines calling a meeting look familiar to you?

  • Team Meeting
  • Meeting Re-Group
  • Level Set Review
  • Sloppy Discussion

What do these even mean and why should I come to this meeting?

Mistake #2: No Information About the Meeting

Other than seeing the date and time, who else was invited, and maybe the actual meeting location rather than TBD, you have no idea what to expect about the meeting but you accept and show up anyway.

Meetings won’t go away anytime soon, but that doesn’t mean we can’t turn hate to WOW at our meetings.

I am going to give you two rules to follow when calling your next meeting. Each takes a couple minutes on your part and your invitees will think you’re awesome.

To be awesome, from now on all your meeting requests must:

Meeting Rule #1: Have A Clear Subject Line

These days, many of us look at meeting requests and our calendar on mobile devices. Keep that in mind and create a subject line that tells them what the meeting will be about.

Meeting Rule #2: WOW Your Invitation

In the body of the invitation, you will add the WOW.

W = Why are we meeting

O = Outcome of having the meeting

W = What will be covered in the meeting (agenda)



You can even use WOW in your text until it becomes second nature to you. Something like this: 

By providing this information, you stated a clear need/reason for why you are having a meeting and you have an agenda. Maybe the meeting you were going to call for an hour can now be only 30 minutes, giving everyone the gift of a little time back.

With your subject line, your informed team now has what they need to prepare and will no longer wonder what “sloppy discussion” means. They know it’s about snacks, what to expect at the meeting, and can come prepared. They can even decide if they should attend the meeting or send someone else who has a better grasp on the subject.

You may even decide — after getting clarity on your purpose — that a meeting isn’t necessary. Maybe you can get the information you need another way. Let’s take the example of snacks and see what that would look like in a WOW email.

W = Why I am sending you this email

O = Outcome of the email

W = What I need

To help you WOW your next meeting, I created a free WOW meeting planning worksheet. Download by clicking the image below.

Or Click here

Let me know how WOWing your next meeting or email works. I know your people will think you are awesome.

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The Time I Met Daniel Pink: An Embarrassing Story

The Time I Met Daniel Pink: An Embarrassing Story

Part 2. If you haven't read Part 1 on the Peter-Out Principle click here. 

Part 2: The Time I Met Daniel Pink: An Embarrassing Story

One of my roles at Disney was as a VIP Tour Guide, hosting executives, dignitaries and celebrities while at the parks.